Lanterna Rally

Author: Teresa Lauer Maria, M

Publisher: Outskirts Press

Published: 2006-05

Total Pages: 156

ISBN-13: 9781598005066

Unlock the Secrets of a Really GreatMother-Daughter RelationshipI'll Share 5 of These Compelling Secrets with You Now! There are secrets to a great relationship, but they needn't be secret to you any longer!It's a tremendous achievement to know yourself, I mean, really know who you are, what you're made of, why you're the way you are, how to celebrate your positives, and how to love yourself, in spite of your "less-than-positives"!But this is just what you're going to find out with this life journal. You're going to learn how your relationship with your mom affects your current relationships and decide for yourself how to make it all you'd hoped for: A relationship of rewards and admiration and respect. It's within your reach, I promise. You'll be thrilled at reaching this level of intimacy!It takes passion and a commitment to building the relationship you want. And what you learn in this relationship carries over into all your other relationships.Asking ... answering ... sharing ... listening instead of talking, and moving outside of yourself to feel compassion and empathy for those for those you love most.The mother-daughter relationship is complex to be sure. Many women ask whether there's hope for one so frustrating, so painful and at times, so contentious? Without a doubt ... I say a resounding yes! Now, without wasting another moment, let me share some of the secrets of the mother and daughter relationship with you ...Secret #1: A great relationship starts with asking (the right!) questionsWe learn by listening and to listen, you have to ask questions. The trick is to ask questions that really matter. Questions that teach us how to transform our relationship into one more deep and meaningful. Questions that help us learn not only where we come from but give us guidance to where we're going.You find questions like ... * How far back can you remember in your life? * How expressive was your family? * Did you know your grandparents? I've carefully designed each of these questions (there's over 100 covering an entire life span) to help you put the pieces together, to begin to build a foundation for your relationship and to finally begin to understand one another. Where most of us fall short is in really hearing. Like one of my readers, Suzanne: She had a history of abuse in her past and as a result was becoming overly protective of her daughter, 11, almost to the point of obsession. Her daughter was growing resentful of the control that her mom was exerting over her every move and Suzanne felt this strain in their relationship.Recognizing that one of the questions in the book might help their relationship, she shared her past abuse with her daughter. She'd wanted to protect her and keep her from the bad things in life of course, as we all want for our children, but slowly became aware that it was suffocating her daughter and not allowing her to grow. Interestingly, through talking to her daughter, she realized that her own abuse began when she was 11 ... this was an important age for her and brought back memories that were uncomfortable. She hadn't made the connection until they began talking, but ultimately she realized they were just that ... her memories. Not those of her daughter. The best part? She said they shared a hug for the first time in over a year! Which brings us to the heart of the mother-daughter relationship and the next secret:Secret #2: We desire ... even expect ... unconditional love in this relationshipWow ... this is a pretty tall order, isn't it? But we expect it nonetheless and when it falls short it can be pretty painful. And, this disappointment can affect nearly every relationship that follows. There's a very real reason for the conflict that occurs between mother and daughter ... and it's a noble one. Once you learn this reason, things become very clear and I share this in detail with you in the journal. But as an overview, I can say that sometimes as moms and daughters we're just too much the sa